Parenting is a journey that comes with its fair share of challenges, triumphs, and everything in between. When you’re a mom of a child with special needs, this journey can sometimes feel like an emotional rollercoaster.
Let’s have a heart-to-heart about something that sneaks into our minds sometimes – that pesky feeling of shame. As special needs moms, it’s like an unwelcome guest at times, making us doubt ourselves and our abilities.
The feeling that we’re not doing enough, that we’re a burden, or that we’re falling short of what’s expected. But you know what? It’s time to show it the door!
Here’s the thing: you are enough. And it’s time to shift your focus. It’s time to tame that feeling of shame and replace it with an attitude of gratitude. Here’s how you can do it:
1. Embrace Your Limitations with Gratitude
Instead of apologizing for not being able to do more, say “Thank you for understanding that I’m at capacity.” Your plate might be full, and that’s okay. Embrace your limitations with gratitude.
Acknowledge that you’re giving your all and that in itself is a remarkable feat. Those who support you will appreciate your honesty and understand that you’re doing your best.
2. Replace Apologies with Thankfulness
When you find yourself saying, “I’m sorry it’s taking so long,” flip the script to “Thank you for being patient.” It’s natural for things to take longer in the world of special needs parenting. Your child’s progress might not follow the same timeline as others, and that’s perfectly all right. Express your gratitude for the understanding and patience of those around you.
3. Shift from Burden to Support
Rather than saying, “I’m sorry for being a burden,” shift your perspective to “Thank you for being supportive.” Your journey as a special needs mom might require additional help and resources, and that’s okay. Your support network is there because they want to be, not because they see you as a burden. Embrace their willingness to stand by you.
4. Find Comfort in Vulnerability
When emotions run high, and you’re tempted to apologize for getting emotional, reframe it as “Thank you for giving me a safe space to vent.” Vulnerability is a sign of strength, not weakness. When you’re open about your feelings, you’re allowing others to connect with you on a deeper level. Appreciate the individuals who offer you a listening ear and a safe haven to express your emotions.
5. Cultivate a Gratitude Practice
Integrate gratitude into your daily routine. Each day, take a moment to reflect on the positives, no matter how small they may seem. Journaling, or simply sharing a gratitude moment with a friend, can help shift your mindset from focusing on challenges to appreciating the blessings that come your way.
Remember, you are navigating uncharted waters with strength, resilience, and love. By replacing shame with gratitude, you’re not only transforming your own outlook but also influencing the way others perceive your journey.
Your child’s journey is unique, and so is yours as a special needs mom.
